Christ and I are Friends
by J. R. Miller, 1912
If we ask what was the beloved disciple's
religion, we may put the answer into phrase—Christ and John were friends.
It was a great, all-absorbing, overmastering friendship, which transformed
John. This friendship began that day when the Baptist said to two young men,
as Jesus passed near: "Behold the Lamb of God!" The two young men followed
Jesus and were invited to his lodgings, spending the afternoon with him.
What took place during those hours we do not know—but we do know that a
friendship began between John—then scarcely more than a boy—and Jesus, which
bonds have never slackened since. For three years this friendship grew in
sweetness and tenderness, and during those years it was that the wonderful
transformation took place in the disciple.
We know a little about the power of a strong, rich, noble
human friendship—in shaping, inspiring, uplifting lives. There are many
lives that are being saved, refined, sweetened, enriched—by a human
friendship. Here is one of the best of the younger Christian men of
today—who has been lifted up from a life of ordinary ability and
education—into refinement, power and large usefulness—by a gentle
friendship. The girl he loved was rich-hearted, inspiring, showing in her
own life the best ideals and attainments, and her love for him and his love
for her lifted him up to love's nobility. She stayed with him only a few
years and then went home to heaven—but he walks among men today with a
strength, an energy and a force of character born of the holy friendship
which meant so much to him.
Silas Marner was a miser who hoarded his money. Someone
took away his hoard, and his heart grew bitter over the wrong to him. Then a
little child was left at his door. His poor starved heart, took in the
little one, and love for her redeemed him from sordidness, bitterness, and
anguish of spirit.
God has saved many a life by sending to it a sweet human
friendship. A Christian lady climbed the rickety stairs to the miserable
room where a woman lay in rags on a pile of straw. She bent over the poor
woman, all vile with sin, said a loving word and kissed her. That kiss saved
her. Christ comes to sinners and saves them with love. That is the way he
saved the prodigals of his time. He came to them and became their friend. It
is to a personal friendship with himself, that Christ is always inviting
men. He does not come merely to make reforms, to start beneficent movements,
to give people better houses, and to make the conditions of life better. He
does not try to save the world by giving it better laws, by founding
schools, by securing wholesome literature. Christ saves men by becoming
John surrendered his heart and life, to this friendship
with Jesus. He opened every window and door to his new Master. The basis of
John's friendship with Christ, was his trust. He never doubted. Thomas
doubted and was slow to believe. This hindered the growth of his friendship
with Jesus. We cannot enter into the joy and gladness of friendship, unless
we believe heartily. Peter was one of Christ's closest friends—but he was
always saying rash words and doing rash things which interrupted his
fellowship with Christ. Such a spirit as Peter's, however loyal and
courageous, cannot realize the sweet and gentle things of the holiest
But John loved on in silence and trusted—his friendship
was deep and strong. At the Last Supper he leaned on the Master's bosom.
That is the place of confidence—the bosom is only for those who have
a right to the closest intimacy. It is the place of love, near
the heart. It is the place of safety—in the secret place of the
Most-High. The bosom is the place of comfort too. It was the darkest
night the world ever saw, that John lay on the bosom of Jesus. But he found
comfort there. The bosom is the place of trust also. That is what
leaning on Christ's breast means. Do not think that that place of innermost
love, was for John only—and has never been filled since that night. It is
like heaven's gate—it is never closed, and whoever will may come and lie
down there. The bosom is also a place for those who sorrow—oh, that
all who have known grief, knew that they may creep in where John lay—and
John's transformation is the model for all of us. No
matter how many imperfections mar the beauty of our lives, we should not be
discouraged. But we should never consent to let the faults remain. That is
the way too many of us do. We condone our weakness and imperfections;
we pity them and keep them. We should give ourselves no rest until
they are all cured. But how can we get these evil things out of our lives?
How did John get rid of his faults? By letting the love of Christ possess
him! Lying upon Christ's bosom, Christ's sweet, pure, wholesome life—
permeated John's life and made it sweet, pure and wholesome.
It is the friendship of Christ—which alone can transform
us. You are a Christian, not because you belong to a church, not because you
have a good creed, not merely because you are living a fair moral life—you
are a Christian because you and Christ are friends. What can a friend be to
a friend? Let us think of the best that earth's richest-hearted friend can
be to us and do for us. Then lift up this conception, multiplying it a
thousand times. If it were possible to gather out of all history and from
all the world—the best and holiest things of pure, true friendship, and
combine them all in one great friendship, Christ's friendship would surpass
the sum of them all. Even our human friendships, we prize as the dearest
things on earth. They are more precious than rarest gems. We would lose
everything else we have—rather than give them up. Life without friendships,
would be empty and lonely. Yet the best earthly friendships, are but little
fragments of the friendship of Christ. It is perfect. Its touch is always
gentle and full of healing. Its help is always wise. Its tenderness is like
the warmth of a heavenly summer. If we have the friendship of Christ, we
cannot be utterly bereft, though all human friends be taken away. To be
Christ's friend—is to be God's child, with all a child's privileges. This is
one essential in being a Christian.
We could not say that Paul is our friend, or John—but
Jesus is living, and is with us evermore. He is our Friend—as really as he
was Mary's or John's.
Christ is our Friend. That means everything we need, will
be supplied. No sorrow can be uncomforted. No evil can overmaster us. For
time and eternity—we are safe. It will not be the streets of gold, and the
gates of pearl, and the river and the trees—which will make heaven for us—it
will be the companionship, the friendship of Christ!
But we must not forget the other part of this friendship.
We are to be Christ's friends too. It is not much we can give to him,
or do for him. But he would have us loyal and true. Surely the
consciousness that Christ is our friend and we are his—should check every
evil thought, quell every bitter feeling, sweeten every emotion—and make all
our life holy, true and heavenly!